My Road To Academic Success
God has been good to me!!
It has been quite some time since I last expressed my thoughts through my blog. The reason for my absence was mainly due to my pursuit of two master’s degrees within a span of three years. I must admit that the journey was far from easy. Countless long nights, all-nighters spent writing, and sleepless nights were just a few of my many challenges. However, pursuing education was my lifelong dream, making every sacrifice worth it. I firmly believe that God always helps us find blessings in the midst of a storm. Even during the most challenging times, He always gives us something to celebrate. For this reason, I will always express my gratitude and admiration for His unwavering love and support.
Adolescent Academia
I never perceived myself as an exceptional academic scholar during my younger years. The feeling of accomplishment I experienced from receiving a C on a test was wonderful as I knew I had exercised great effort to earn that grade. However, there was one high school subject that I adored – history. In fact, it was the only course where I consistently earned A’s. My cousins, who were like my siblings, were excellent students and role models when I was growing up.
I was determined to attend college someday and demonstrate to myself that I could flourish in higher education.
Not Yet Ready, But Life Goes On
When I began college straight out of high school, I wasn’t prepared. I struggled to manage my time, spending too much time partying and not enough on my studies. As a result, I left college with a low GPA of 1.5, feeling heartbroken and disappointed, but life was just beginning.
Since then, I have lived a full life. I got married, started a family, and raised two beautiful and intelligent daughters. Going back to school was a challenge, given Michael’s military career and the demands of raising a family. I juggled work and parenting, sometimes working outside the home and other times staying home with my girls. Through it all, I have had some truly life-changing experiences that I will never forget.
Real-Life History
My Out-of-School Experience
When I reached my early thirties, I had an opportunity to return to school. Surprisingly, I found myself thriving in my studies. However, this was a time when online classes were not yet an option, so I had to physically attend classes. I attended Pikes Peak University for one year, but of course, it was time for our family to relocate to a new duty station, which meant that I had to leave school once again. It would be four years before I could resume my studies.
Despite this setback, we were fortunate enough to live in New York, and I gave birth to our second daughter less than a year later; we were PCSing to Europe. During this time, I was privileged to experience the rich history of Germany firsthand. As Michael carried out his military duties, I had the opportunity to travel extensively throughout Germany, France, Italy, and Poland. This allowed me to visit all the places I had previously studied, bringing the knowledge I had gained to life.
My Germany Highlights
My journey to Europe was a wonderful experience, with Germany being the highlight of my trip. The memories of my visit to some of the best German bakeries, where I indulged in the most delicious Brotchen, still linger in my mind. I also fondly recall savoring the taste of authentic Bratwurst and Pommes Frites frits before my gluten allergies took over. The Christkindlmarkts (Christmas Markets) was a particular favorite, where the crisp winter air on my face, the aroma of roasted nuts, delicious chocolates, mulled wine, and hot cider made for a delightful sensory experience.
Heidelberg Christmas Market
Touring the Trier Cathedral was a unique opportunity and the most beautiful church I have ever seen. It houses the robe of Christ, though it was not on display during our visit. Nonetheless, when I entered the room where it is kept, I felt an unexplainable sense of peace, and the splendor of the cathedral is forever etched in my memory.
Trier Saint Peter’s Cathedral/ https://www.en.dominformation.de
When we visited the Dachau Concentration Camp in Munich, it was an incredibly haunting experience. We took a tour with the USO from the General Patton Hotel in Garmish, Germany (Which has since been returned to the Germans and converted into a retirement community). As soon as we stepped off the bus, I felt a sense of unease that lingered throughout the entire visit. Our tour group was diverse, with people of all ages, but there was a somberness that hung in the air. Even the children were well-behaved, and even the infants seemed to sense the weight of the place.
We began our tour by walking from the exhibition hall to the section where political prisoners were held. The stories of those who suffered there echoed in my mind. As we moved on, we went outside to a large open field. This is the space where the bunkers used to be for the Jewish prisoners. One of them had been reconstructed for the museum, and it was a chilling reminder of the harsh conditions that prisoners endured.
The most upsetting part of the tour was when we entered the crematorium and observed ovens and the gas chambers. It was a stark reminder of the atrocities committed during that dark time in history. It was a moment of reflection and a reminder of the importance of never forgetting the past.
Despite the heaviness of the visit, there was a positive aspect to our tour. It served as a reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of standing up against injustice. It was a powerful and educational experience that left a lasting impact on me. We were fortunate enough to have an encounter with a valiant African American soldier who had played a crucial role in the liberation of Dachau. It was an incredibly touching moment for all of us to witness this hero’s return to the site after so many years. The emotional impact was so profound that several of us, including myself, were moved to tears.
During my time in Germany, I made it my mission to visit the magnificent Neuschwanstein Castle, which had long been a dream of mine. The awe-inspiring views from the castle’s highest point were truly breathtaking and provided a sense of tranquility that only nature can evoke as I was witnessing God’s own handiwork firsthand.
I hope to share some of the photos I took during my visit once I find them. However, our stay in Europe was nearing completion and it was time to bid farewell to Germany. It was an educational and enlightening experience, but it was time to return home and refocus my attention on school.
Finally, Back To School
During the course of 3 ½ years, our family had the pleasure of residing in Germany, creating unforgettable memories that we still cherish today. Upon our return to the United States, Michael made it his mission to break the generational stereotype by ensuring that every member of our family would become college graduates. He began by pursuing his bachelor’s and master’s degrees, which he successfully completed.
I was inspired by his determination and commitment, and in 2011 I enrolled in classes. Though it took time to get started, I was overjoyed to finally begin my academic pursuits. In the same year, my eldest daughter earned her associate degree, and in 2014, she proudly earned her bachelor’s degree. With two more of us yet to complete our degrees, we remain committed to our goal of achieving higher education and breaking generational stereotypes.
During my time in school, I faced numerous challenges that made it difficult for me to attend full-time. I had to work and take care of my family, which meant that I could only attend school half-time. However, thanks to modern technological advances, I was able to continue my education online. I decided to take two classes every semester, with occasional breaks during the summer.
In 2016, I was in the middle of the spring semester when we received some devastating news. Michael was diagnosed with stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer. It was a shock that turned our lives upside down. I knew that I had to be there for him, so I made the difficult yet easy decision to take time off from school to care for him.
Over the next few months, Michael fought courageously against the disease. We went through countless doctor’s appointments, treatments, and hospital stays. It was emotionally and physically draining, but we never lost hope. We held onto the belief that he would beat the odds and come out on the other side.
Unfortunately, in October 2016, Michael passed away from the disease. It was a devastating blow for me and my girls. We were heartbroken and struggled to come to terms with our loss. It was a difficult time, but we knew that we had to take time to care for ourselves and each other. We knew that he was in heaven and was no longer suffering.
We took the time to grieve and heal. We leaned on each other for support and sought comfort in our shared memories of my husband. It wasn’t easy, but we slowly began to rebuild our lives. We focused on taking care of ourselves and finding joy in the little things. I am also grateful for the support of my girls and the strength we found in each other. We have come a long way since that devastating day in 2016, and we continue to move forward, one step at a time.
In March 2017, I received a call from my school, and my advisor told me that I had only three classes left to graduate. This was a bittersweet moment for me. It was a challenging time as I had to balance my grieving process with school. However, I was determined to finish.
There were days when it was difficult to concentrate when the weight of my loss felt overwhelming. But I reminded myself that my husband would have wanted me to succeed. He believed in me and my abilities, and I couldn’t let him down. But more importantly, I could not let myself down. I sought support from my family and friends, who were always there to lend a listening ear or offer words of encouragement. They reminded me that I wasn’t alone in this journey and that there were people who believed in me and wanted to see me succeed.
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I also found solace in my classes. It was a way for me to channel my energy into something positive. I threw myself into my studies, immersing myself in the material and engaging with my professors and classmates. It was positive for me to feel connected to something outside of my grief. I needed to feel a sense of purpose and accomplishment.
A Family of College Graduates
A dream differed is not a dream denied.
In May 2017, by the grace of God, I completed my final class and officially graduated from college with a 3.4 GPA! It was a bittersweet moment, as I wished my late husband could have been there to celebrate with me. But I knew that he was with me in spirit, cheering me on from heaven.
Graduating from college was a major milestone in my life. It was a testament to my strength and resilience and a reminder that even in the face of adversity, we can overcome. But I was not done.
In the fall of 2019, I made the decision to apply to graduate school after being encouraged by my new love.
I was thrilled to be accepted and began my journey toward earning a Master of Arts in Professional and Technical Writing, In 2021.
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My youngest daughter also achieved a major milestone by graduating with her bachelor’s degree. It was a proud moment for our family. But we did not stop there. I decided to pursue a dual program, and in 2023, I completed my second master’s degree with a 3.8 GPA. At the same time, my oldest daughter graduated with her first master’s degree. She is currently working towards a second master’s degree in Education and a Ph.D. and currently teaching PE.
Looking back, I am amazed at how far I’ve come. I was once a poor-performing student in high school and almost flunked out of college. But I didn’t let that define me. I worked hard, persevered, and learned to embrace my imperfections. I realized that my ability to overcome challenges and keep going was a badge of honor. I also found strength and inspiration in my faith. With the support of Christ, I knew that I could achieve anything I set my mind to.
Now, our family has become a family of college graduates. We have surpassed our original expectations. It’s an incredible accomplishment and a testament to our determination and hard work. I am so proud of myself and my daughters for all that we have achieved. We have proven that with dedication, trust in God, a great support system, and belief in ourselves, anything is possible.
Futures Endeavors
I am always striving to learn and grow, and pursuing a Ph.D. is something I am considering as part of that journey. Right now, I am working on a couple of personal projects. I did write and directed my first screenplay for my church’s Drama Ministry, The Time Machine Talk Show: The Easter Edition, which we performed for our Church this year for Easter. Click Here To View
My own experiences have taught me the value of perseverance and trusting in God. I try to strive to make the most of each day. It’s inspiring to see my daughters also pursuing their own educational goals, with one currently working on her Ph.D. and the other on track to graduate from graduate school in 2024. I believe that we can all learn from each other’s experiences and journeys, and I hope to continue inspiring and learning from those around me.
Throughout my academic journey, I have encountered numerous challenges that have tested my perseverance and determination. Despite the obstacles, my family and I have remained steadfast in our pursuit of success. We keep our eyes on God, pray, and allow Him to direct our path to our goals. We have faced the painful reality of loss, but through our unwavering faith, we have come out stronger and more resilient.
If you have a dream or goal that you are striving towards, do not allow any hindrances to deter you. Keep your focus sharp and your determination unyielding. Seek out the necessary resources and strategies that will help you achieve your goals. I am a resource.
Remember, if we can, so can you!
God’s love and blessings to you all!